Tuesday, April 17, 2012

Things are ever Changing

Ok so I'm really having a a hard time right now..
Along with being a Grandma myself
comes the fact that our parents
are getting older...

Theres been days I've wished I could just stop
the clock...

You know just freeze time
and even better go back just a couple of years

I never really knew that the last time my mom
and stepdad would come to visit was going to be the last..


Grandkids have been born, Birthdays Baby Showers
and Holidays have past

My Parents have been pretty much housebound
So the only way to visit is for us to go
out and see them...
I really miss their visit's and now my 
stepdad is no longer able to drive
and he can not be left alone..


Talks of nursing homes and such...
the thought of our Mom being alone


The whole thing just sucks...
excuse me I'm just having a bit of
a pity party....

15 comments:

Peace said...

((((((((((hugs)))))))))))
I understand.

vivian said...

that is sad Diane. how far away are they? aging is a scarey thing. do you have family near them?
It would be very nice to stop or slow down time for so many reasons!
take care Diane!
xoxo
vivian

Zilly said...

I know a little poem: when you love someone-let it go. When it comes back-it's you'rs. When not-it never will be. I understand you're feeling. Sometimes it makes me cry to see my parents grow old. It's hard to see the oldernes get's their body. You only can cherish while you can. I hope you understand my writing. Lovely greeting with heart&soul from Sil.

acorn hollow said...

I would say you are entitled to a pity party. Thinking of you
Cath

Twyla and Lindsey said...

Bless your heart! Time goes WAY too fast! I want to grasp each precious moment and it just seems impossible to catch. Heartbreaking when our parents are aging in front of our eyes. I am an only child and don't look forward to making many of these decisions on my own. Blessings to you and your family, Diane. Twyla

Sherri B. said...

I am so sorry you are going through this hard time. I look at my mom and get sad too, she didn't have much joy in her life and had to work hard to take care of us. It is not easy to watch our parents fail, especially when they are not near. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. xxoo

Tresa said...

Ahhh, it does suck. I'm sorry.
HUGS!

My Vintage Mending said...

My thoughts and prayers are with you dear friend..
Blessings...Renee

Ann@A Sentimental Life said...

I am sorry you are facing that. I agree about stopping time..
One thing about my parents dying young is now that is one less thing I will have to face.
Hang in there.

Nan said...

Yes I understand Diane I've been there and done that with my Mom, it can be a very hard transition for all involved. Take care my friend. Nan

Sarah said...

I understand how you feel. Its hard being away and watching your parents get older. I am sorry your are going through this difficult time, I would just cherish your memories and enjoy as much time as you can with them. One thing that I have done is asked my mom and dad to write down their childhood memories and favorite memories being parents so I will always have them with me, no matter what.

xo,
Sarah

Barbara said...

I think many people can identify with this feeling - it's a sad, demanding time, and about the only thing that helps sometimes is knowing that other people understand. Sending you good wishes, Diane.

JunkStuffTreasures said...

Dinae, I know exactly how you feel. My parents (NJ) have not been out to visit me (IL) in years. The travel is just too demanding. We speak every day, but face-to-face visits are few and far between. If only we could stop the clock....

Vickie @ Ranger 911 said...

I know just what you mean about stopping time. In our 30's we have our children, parents, and even grandparents. We are surrounded by loved ones of all ages. Now in our 50's, WE are the grandparents and have to watch the generation before us slow down and become dependent on others. It seems to happen overnight and is painful to watch.

Best wishes, Vickie

Sandy Michelle said...

I work for Home Instead where I care for Seniors that are at home. Have you though about hiring someone to come to the home and assist your Father- rather than separating your parents? I know how sad it feels to watch your parents slow down with age! Hang in there!

Sandy xox