Thursday, November 29, 2012

Times they are a changing

Things have been really different ...
And my families life is going through some major changes.
When my stepfather passed away in June our Mom
was left alone...

We all knew meaning my 6 brothers and sisters and myself
that changes were going to have to be made...


Our Mom is 83 years old and she just can't live alone.
Well maybe she could but my parents home is
an hour and half away from me and at least an hour
from my other siblings... and she really needs some company..

So her house is on the market and it's in Escrow..
Our Mom is going to move to Oregon where a couple of 
my siblings and their adult children live...

Well the reality has just hit for some of my siblings and they
are having a real hard time with the change...


It's sad to know that we will never be celebrating Holidays
and having the comfort of their home..
And I'm kinda sure my Mom won't be at my house ever again..

(I guess I too am feeling a little sorry for myself) 


Aug 2011

But things in life do change and we all have to accept
that our parents are getting older, and that's life..
She's going to have an Adventure!

I'll be going to my Moms house tomorrow and helping 
with the last garage sale, and packing things up for her move...
And treasuring every minute with her...


Her Birthday Party in August 2012


ox,

18 comments:

Terra said...

Wow, big changes for your mom, and for each person in your family. Selling the house, emptying it, and setting her up in a new home far away, well, like you said, its an adventure for her.
The kittens are darling.

Tammy's in Love said...

It is that sudden aha moment where we have the reality of life NOW. We meaning, I cooked an entire Thanksgiving dinner drove four hours and put it on FIL's table. MIL died Thanksgiving weekend last year; my husband is still greiving the loss of his Mom. Life NOW...Hang in there, try to enjoy each memory with her. Oregon is nice in the summer...

Shabby chic Sandy said...

Change is hard. We will be happy to welcome your Mom as a new Oregonian!

Erica of Golden Egg Vintage said...

Ahhh Your Mom looks like such a Honey! I watched my mother and her siblings go through this with my Grandma, and I know it's so difficult. You're lucky that there are so many of you (siblings)to support eachother. I'm sure once your mom gets settled, there will be more happy times, and memories to be made.
Thinking of you-
Erica :)

Vickie @ Ranger 911 said...

Change is so hard. I wish I could have frozen time when both of my parents were in good health and our girls lived closer to us, but time marches on. Enjoy your last few days with your mother and hopefully you'll be able to visit her during her newest adventure.

xo,
Vickie

craftyles said...

It is hard. I'm sure it will work out, though. I'm glad you have siblings and you all are helping together. Enjoy the time with your sweet Mom. Maybe you can make some new traditions with her at her new place.She's such a cutie!

Margaret said...

I can really relate to your post Diane. My Mom is 82 and although still self-sufficient, she is a widow like your Mom, and it is so hard to see those little changes--the desire not to cook like she once she did, go places like she always enjoyed, get a little forgetful, etc. The physical changes are hard too cause she's always "Mommy" only she isn't the same. If only we could feeeze time for them and keep them as we know them in our minds. I hope it all works out for your Mom. I'm glad she has raised such a loving family. Maggie

Creative Breathing said...

Oh Diane, You look so like your mother. She is beautiful and so graceful. How blessed you are to have had her close by for so many years. I know this change will be a very hard one for you. Take care my friend. Elizabeth

Pink Roses and Teacups said...

Awe, sweet Dianne.... I know how you feel. We have just lost the last of the step- parents. My mom died young 67, 18 yrs ago. Step-dad followed 5 yrs later. Husbands parents are gone too. Dear mother-in-love passed away 2 days after Christmas last year. They are all gone now, and the holidays are not the same, and neither are our lives, without them in it. It's sad, but such is life. Bless your mom, and her new journey ahead, as well as you and your family.

Hugs,
Debbie xo

Little Susie Home Maker said...

Oh dear Diane, This is such a tough time, I am sure! My parents are in their early 70's and both live in the beautiful home I grew up in. I feel sad for you as I put myself in your shoes. But you are right things do change, and we need to really focus on the people that we have in our lives and how we can bless each other. It is so wonderful that your mom has a family that loves her and is their for her. That is such a big thing! The changes are hard for everyone to go through. We have gone through similar changes on my husband's side of the family. It does take patients and a lot of understanding. You seem to have plenty of love in your heart, so you will get through this and be okay. I think your mom is blessed to have you! Cherish the memories of your dear father.
Blessings,
Susie

Cindy said...

Boy, I sure do understand how you are feeling. We have gone through the taking care of, and losing, all of our parents in the last few years. It is sad that those family times are over. but now we are concentrating on making new memories for our grandchildren:) Take care and have a good weekend.

Holly- Cutie Pie Cottage said...

((HUGS))

vintage grey said...

Such big and hard changes! Will be keeping you and your family in my prayers! Your mom is so beautiful! Enjoy this weekend with her! xo Heather

My Vintage Mending said...

She is beautiful...I wish you the best of luck and many hugs for all that is to come. Know that I am thinking of you..smiles..Renee

JunkStuffTreasures said...

It is wonderful that you and your siblings will be around for your mom. Your future will be different but many new and wonderful memories will be made. I understand your sadness- my parents are both over 83 years old, and haven't visited my home in many years. My best wishes to your mom.

Blessed Serendipity said...

It's so hard to see the ones that we love age and have to change living arrangements but home is where ever your family is where ever that may be. Hugs and blessings!

Danielle

GardenofDaisies said...

Diane, I totally understand this. I think we are at the same stage in life. Sending you hugs as you work through the changes for everyone.

Curtains in My Tree said...

Dear just go ahead and feel sorry for yourself, you aren't the only person who has gone through this and we all cry.
I had a hard hard time for years after Christmas wasn't what I was use to , because my parents & grandparents were not here any longer.

Now I am the old mother and Grandmother and having problems and wondering how many more years I can live alone

Merry Christmas and sweet thoughts, which you will always have